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New Year, New Me? | Lets Talk

New Year, New Me? | Lets Talk


It's me, Olivia. I am back. In case you've forgotten who I am, it's been a while. I lost all of my willpower to blog, I started to hate my photos, my content and I couldn't even face logging in to Twitter. I went through something similar back in 2014 and I gave up blogging for a few months and I didn't want this break to get that bad so I knew as soon as it started to feel like something I 'had' to do instead of what I wanted to do, I took time away and now I feel ready to come back. I apologise to you lot for the content I put out over the last couple of months because it hasn't been my best, but I am going to keep trying to bring you new and fresher content. I plan on having a re-brand over the next few weeks so prepare yourselves for that. It will still be the same Dungarees & Donuts name which you've all gotten to know and love just more of me, I started my blog when I was still in college and I've grown a lot as a person since then. I love to blog about lifestyle and beauty, but I want more for my space on the internet, as you all know I am a huge advocate of mental health and taboo subjects and I want to keep talking about them, I want to keep breaking down the stigma and I will continue to do that. Dungarees & Donuts has always been my space where I can talk about what I want and nobody really has a say about what I can/can't write. I hope when I finally get my plans into motion you all enjoy what I have to offer. For the time being I plan on only putting out one or two posts a week because 3-5 can be seriously soul destroying and they do say less is more.



As far as me as a person goes, I am not one for the whole new year, new me stuff. But I am hoping to make 2017 a year I am proud of. I have been struggling with my mental health over the last few months more than I like to admit, I've been struggling to do anything other than get out of bed at a stupid time, go into work on some days, I am not enjoying who I've become. I feel like I am a shell of the person I was a few years back, but in other ways I feel stronger and ready to take on the world. I am ready to take the time to get better and work on myself. Later this month I will have finished with my university course and I will finally be able to take the time I need to figure out what I want to do with my life. I'm sure that will come with time though *I hope* 

My final request is something along the lines of let me know what you want to see more of on my blog and how I can improve, I want to keep progressing and making my blog the best it can be!

Over and out, 
Love Olivia!
(I have not signed out of a blog post in a long time!)


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I've Changed | Lets Talk

I've Changed | Lets Talk


In August marked my three year blogging anniversary and apart from my blogging break back in 2013 I've been pretty consistent with posting the entire time. Which originally started as 1 day a week, them went up to 4 and is now at a happy balance of three days a week with an occasional four. It's been three years and in those three years I've done a lot of growing up and I've changed a lot, my blog once was about beauty and occasionally random posts and it is now SO much more than that. I've used my own mental health journey and shared that on the internet, along with talking about subjects such as my own relationships and break ups, I've reached out to others on the internet and I will say that relationships are hard, but if you're struggling in yours it doesn't need to be the end. Although I didn't know this at the time, you can do things such as couples councelling online or even on your own, it is something worth looking into. I talk about my own personal struggles and illness as well as talking about other illnesses and trying to break the stigma on many things. My blog is a lifestyle blog, with a side of real talk and some food, fashion and beauty thrown in. I realise when some of my readers started to follow my blog many months ago, they didn't follow it for the real talk, but it is something that is important to me, so it's here to stay. I've changed as a person, I've gone from being a very shy and confused 17 year old to a brave, open and fun 21 year old who just about makes it through each day. But throughout everything my blog is something that has been a constant in my life, and I love you guys for that. You give me a purpose to keep writing on the internet. Whether this is the first time you've ever read a post of mine or you read my blog every week, I just wanted to say thanks.



When I started blogging, I thought it would last as long as my other hobbies (a few months) but there is something SO different about blogging, whether that's the sense of community I always find myself in when I come online or the fun of having my OWN space on the internet. I love blogging and for the foreseeable I don't see myself stopping. I have bad days with blogging where I will sit in front of a screen and write the same three lines over and over and end up closing the computer down and stepping away in frustration. But I'll also have days where I can write post after post to the point where I have 20+ posts scheduled and that feels so damn good. I've met friends through blogging who I would never of met without it. I've been given fantastic opportunities which I could of only have imagined before. I even earn enough money to be able to afford to live from blogging and my part time job. When I sat in college all of those years ago and asked my best friend to help me think of a name for my blog on the internet, Dungarees & Donuts was just a silly idea which turned into my own brand. I now live and breathe Dungarees & Donuts, it's more than just a diary online. It's my website, my brand and it's a massive part of me and without that part I'd be lost.

I've had friendships that have lasted less time than my blog, I've had a relationships end, I've realised so many different things about myself that I didn't know before my journey started. I've gained weight, I've moved out. So many things have changed but the one thing which has stayed the same is my space online to be me and I am so happy for that.

Thank you for everyone who has stuck by me throughout the last three years, I couldn't imagine my life right now if it wasn't for you, so thank you!
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Moving out, one year (and a bit) on! | Lets Talk

Moving out, one year (and a bit) on! | Lets Talk


It's been well over a year now since I moved out of home, I have spent almost a year in a student house with some of my friends! There are so many things you take for granted living at home so I thought I'd share a little bit of a post about what I have learnt. It is a bit of a different post to my usual 'lets talk' styled posts but as it is something we all go through I thought it might be interesting to share with you all. I would love to know in the comments what age you moved out of home!


Food is damn expensive: 
Right up until I moved out I would often do the weekly shop with my mum (much to her dismay) and I would chuck stuff in the trolley left, right and centre and she would go mental about the prices of food. At the time I'd sort of shrug it off, but now I am the one paying for the shopping I am a lot more conscious of what I buy. Soz mum.

Heating and drying cost a bomb: 
Who knew how expensive it is to have the heating on?! I mean am a REALLY hot person and sleep with a fan on pretty much 365 days a year. But on occasion I want the heating on and Luke always wants it on, and in our student house it was on a lot of the time and that bill was expensive. Using a dryer is also MEGA expensive, but I am not one for a washing line (lazy life, hey I am still a student) so I am forever popping the dryer on.

There was a reason my mum moaned about lights: 
I used to get SO annoyed about the amount my mum moaned about electric bills and the lights being left on, and don't even get me started on the amount of times she said "I didn't know we were at Blackpool illuminations" but to be fair... she did have a point.

Cleaning your house: 
The strange thing about me is the weird jobs around the house that no-one likes to do I actually kind of enjoy, like cleaning the bathroom and doing the washing. Weird right? But the stuff I hate like doing the washing up and just general cleaning will get left until I do it myself. I spend so much time cleaning I didn't even think about the amount of stuff there is to do in the house.

One thing I’ve found useful, is to put clutter away into plastic storage crates and hide them under the bed. You can buy them online and in most homeware stores. Less clutter = less dusting.

I miss a dishwasher: 
In my new house, the kitchen is SO small there is literally NO room for a dishwasher *sobs* so I have to wash everything by hand, I miss the days of oh lets just pop it in the dishwasher and then take it out to use, one day I will get you back Dishwasher!

What do you miss most about living at home? 
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The End Of An Era l Lets Talk

The End Of An Era l Lets Talk


Hi all, how are we doing? I am back on a Wednesday with a lets talk post! I am trying to get back into the swing of things blog wise because lately I have been all of the place with my blog and I am hoping this post shares a little bit more into why. Back at the start of November I decided to end my two year relationship, I made that call but it doesn't make it any easier to do so. Any form of a serious relationship I've been in, I seem to bail out of it. I always seem to settle and never be truly happy. The person who I was in a relationship with was someone I would of considered my best friend. We spent all of our time together, but for months something didn't feel right. I kept trying to push it to the back of my mind, but it wasn't going away and I knew the only way to stop the way I was feeling was to end it. It's been a couple of months now, but things have come to light which I've found are more important, like getting myself better, also I have been focusing on spending more time with my friends and being young. There is no need to stay in a relationship when you're so unhappy, you can do better. For a while I felt like I was staying because it made me comfortable and that is not a reason to stay with someone.



Breaking up with someone as an adult is so much more complicated than when you're younger, for starters there is living together, me and my ex signed a tenancy agreement which we are both stuck in a for a few months yet, luckily for us we have a spare room downstairs so it's easy to deal with living together. But when things are worth trying to fix, it's worth looking into the pros and cons of couples therapy, you can read more about this over at Regain.us.

Now although things didn't work out between me and my ex, I am back on dating websites like Tinder (if you can count that), I am not sure what I want at the moment, and that is okay. If I find someone then great, if I don't then that is okay too. But the main point of this post is just to let you guys know, I am still here and although my Twitter presence and blog posts are lacking a lot at the moment I hope to find myself and get back into blogging and be a better version of me soon. I just wanted to thank you all again for your constant support and being there for me.

2017 is gonna be my year!


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Weight, Where Is The Middle Ground? *TW* | Lets Talk

Weight, Where Is The Middle Ground? *TW* | Lets Talk


It's another night where I am sat up at midnight writing a post about my life which lets face it you lot probably don't want to read but I can't help myself. Over this last year opening up to you lot has become a weekly thing and I am just used to doing it now. I just wanted to add a little trigger warning at the start of this post as you know I usually do when I talk about certain issues. Today is a big one for me and it's one I've hardly spoken about on my blog but it is something I've pushed to the back of my mind and tried to pretend it doesn't exist. I can say throughout my life I've never had a healthy relationship with food when I was a teenager it was always a problem with never eating enough. I would forever be under eating, skipping meals and forcing myself to not eat to stay skinny. I am lucky it never became such a big deal because it could have been way worse for me.



But I know looking back at photos that was not a healthy relationship to have. It was after one of my exes left me I started to develop another problem with food but this time it was the other way. I found a new boyfriend and his family taught me that eating was good, in fact eating a lot was good. At first it was a good thing I was gaining weight. I needed to gain weight. But then I couldn't stop. Food became such a huge thing to me, I actually feel weird typing this out because to anyone who has never had these problems you'll probably think it is stupid but to me this is how it feels. I would literally panic if I didn't know when I was going to be able to eat next, I used to get depressed hanging out with people who didn't eat a lot because I didn't want to be judged. I could see myself getting bigger and being more unhappy with myself but it felt right to keep eating.

It wasn't until I was a little bit older when I started to notice a pattern in my eating, and it's only VERY recently that I've noticed my triggers. I would never eat a lot when I was happy, it would always be when I was stressed. I felt sad, I wanted to eat. I would eat SO much food until I felt sick but I couldn't stop. *I'm still dealing with these issues now so it's pretty raw stuff* I rely on food far too much and I am so glad it's finally something I am dealing with because I am worried for my health. I hate the way my body looks at the moment, I hate going shopping with people in case the clothes don't fit. I NEVER try them on in the changing room because when I realise I need to go up a dress size my day is ruined. The worst thing I feel like when it is an issue with food it always people telling you, OH just eat more or you know you could just stop eating. I don't think they realise it's not that simple, oh damn I wish it was. I know that my issues with food are not ok, it is not ok to be in this relationship anymore, like a toxic relationship; it is time to leave. I will forever want to go back to you but this has to be the way forward. It was in the last few weeks when I was seeing my doctor at his late night surgery that I told him, once I started I couldn't stop. He's getting me some support for this issue and I am lucky I have a doctor who understands so well. For now, I am looking at ways to deal with my relationship with food in a more healthy way and I am so proud of myself for dealing with it.

I hope this post as every other helped in someway, shape or form. 



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10 Times I 'Won' At Life | Lets Talk

10 Times I 'Won' At Life | Lets Talk


I am forever talking about important issues on my blog, which I love more than anything in the world and I will continue to do so. But today I decided I would share something different with my lovely readers on my blog and share 10 times that I 'won' at life. By winning at life I just mean 10 good things that have happened to me, I thought it would be cool to share something a bit more upbeat and hopefully you enjoy this post, I would love to know about the times you've won at life in the comments.



1. The time I got added to my FAVOURITE brands press list.
That's right, I get sent things for my blog from my favourite brand. Every time I get a package from them it feels like I am dreaming.

2. The time I got the shoes I've wanted for ages.
I looked for this particular pair of shoes all over the internet for weeks and someone finally put them on Ebay in my size for a MASSIVE fraction of what they were being sold at everywhere and the sender was super lovely.

3. The time I made a best friend.
It sounds so soppy, but this year I finally found someone who I can happily call my best friend, I could spend every single day with him and I wouldn't mind. He's made me so happy and I couldn't imagine life without him. We do so many fun things together and he's taught me it's okay to be a little weird.

4. The time I got a job.
If you had told me two years ago I would be able to go to work again and do things with my life I totally wouldn't of believed you, as somebody who once struggled to go out of the house, this is a HUGE change for me.

5. That time I made a blogger Whatsapp group.
Earlier this year I made a blogger whatsapp group which has been my life line through so many things, I couldn't imagine not having these lovely ladies in my life. Kim, Lalia, Sarah, Elena, Jess, Aoife and Georgina you are my life.

6.  That time I got the confidence to go out without makeup on!
This has been many times since, but the first time in about 5 years I managed to go out without makeup on this year, and it was a super huge step for me as I am so self conscious.

7. That time when I got 100 likes on my Instagram photo.
It feels SO good to hit 100 likes on my Instagram photos and although it probably doesn't seem a lot to some people to me it's a big deal. It's also super exciting that it keeps happening.

8. The time I got the right diagnosis of my mental health.
I was forever feeling like I was getting fobbed off by the doctors and not getting the right diagnosis for my illness, I was being given different medication after different medication and nothing was helping. Finally, I saw a doctor who got it and helped me get the right therapy and that changed my life. Getting a proper diagnosis is always super important. Some people think visiting a private health care professional helps, an example of this would be Harley Street Clinic at UCH. Finding someone who you get a long with is super important in mental health.

9. The time I moved into my own house.
I loved living in a student house for the company of my friends, but I wouldn't trade living with my boyfriend for anything. It is so much better for having my own space and chilling out.

10. The time I got my tattoo.
When I got my first tattoo it was so much more to me than just getting a tattoo, it was a step in my journey which changed my life. I am still super happy with it a year later.

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