Why I regret going to university.



It's approaching two years since I left university, and apart from my student overdraft and a ton of debt, I don't really feel like I gained a lot from going to uni. First things first, I didn't even want to go to university, at the time of applying to go to university at college, I didn't want to do it. I've never been particularly academic, my anxiety has often ruined my chances of doing well in most things. Exams are my worst nightmare, group work is like hell on earth and don't even get me started on presentations. In college, I did a course in Media which I did love, the analysing of the films, adverts and writing about them in great depth but the creation side of film didn't appeal to me. I don't have confidence in myself to be able to create any content alone, and as stated above, group work isn't something I enjoy. So when it came to the creation side, I was scared to share my ideas, therefore, was just pushed to the side. I managed to come out of college with distinction, distinction and merit. Which I was beyond made up with, but when it came to deciding what to do after college my head started to pound. The idea of getting myself a full-time job straight out of college scared me, but as did university. Being stuck into film creation for a further 3 years wasn't something I wanted to do. But everyone else was going to university and I was confused. 


The truth was, I loved writing and wanted to progress further with that, but I didn't know where to start. I decided to approach my tutors for some advice. Who advised me to go on to do a foundation degree which was held at the college before progressing on to the university campus. This was like taking a breath of fresh air, I got to stay at the college, with the lecturers I had gotten to know and my tutor even told me I could come away from the production side of things. A few weeks into the course, I realised I had made a mistake. My heart wasn't in the course and wanted to leave. I told my tutor I had made this decision, and he said he knows I'll be great on the course if I just carry on, I was still hesitant. He pointed out to me, that all of the universities are in full swing now and I would need to wait until the following year to apply, which again scared the life out of me. I decided to push through and keep going with the course. As I had done my first year, it was time for the second year. I had no idea that you could change course after your first year as you get 4 years of finance through SFE. But once, I'd spoken to someone who advised me of this, it was 3 weeks into the course, which counted as using the finance and qualify for the rest, I'd have to fund my own first year. Unfortunately, my Sainsburys wage wouldn't cut the thousands needed upfront. As I didn't want to waste any more money, I decided to see it out. 

As I had done a foundation year, I still had to do the additional year at university, to make this a full degree, which I decided to go for. Sadly, it made me resent my college even more and wishing if I was going to do the degree that I had just done it all from the university to start with. As the facilities were better and I feel like I would have been able to grow my confidence more. Almost 2 years later, the only reason I like my degree is that it looks good on my CV and I gained a little bit of further knowledge into cameras and how to write a script which we learnt early on in the course. 


I wish I could say throughout it all, at least I made some good friends but I can't even really say that. With moving around so much, I missed out on making friends as people had already made friends in their freshers year. However, I do live to tell the tale, and want to let all of you guys know who are applying for uni, or are considering university you don't have to apply. You can take a year out, or wait for years to come or not even go to university at all. Plus if your course doesn't seem compatible with you, it's ok to drop out and not have a plan B. Sometimes life throws us curveballs and we just have to ride them and hope for the best. I would love to know in the comments if you regret going to university and whether you have a job based around what your degree. 


11 comments

  1. I am sorry about your university experience, I loved my 4 years there and blessed to have a job in the field I studied for. I do have friends who didnt like uni in the least.

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  2. I don't think uni is for everyone, I think it is seemed to be "normal" and the thing everyone should do, but not everyone learns in the same way and uni doesn't allow for that.

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  3. Oh what ashame, that it wasn't a positive experience for you. Many people seem to assum everyone will got ot Uni nowadays, but I always tell my kids to follow their hearts and do what makes them happy. Mich x

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  4. These days it's not as important to have a university degree as it used to be, but I think, as you get older, you'll be thankful you got it when you did. It's a lot harder to get when you're older with a family to support at the same time. You're still young - plenty of time to figure out what you want from life. :)

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  5. I'm sorry to hear about your experience. I am glad I went just to say I got a degree but I don't think I learnt or have taken anything away from going to university, like you as I lived at home I don't have any uni friends either x

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  6. Such a shame you didn't enjoy university. It is something I regret, not going - I would have loved to study my dream course and find a job to do with that

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  7. I'm sorry to hear your university experience wasn't quite as you imagined. I can somewhat relate, I'm in my second year of uni now and I'm struggling. I did well in college and I had no idea what I wanted to do, so opted for uni as I was too scared to get a job. Now I'm half way through, I know it probably wasn't the right choice for me as I struggle with essay writing and harsh deadlines but here we are. Only one year left to go!

    Lucy | Forever September

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  8. I don't regret going to university but I do feel like it was a waste of time..I have had many opportunities since leaving but none of them have been related to my degree! So I kind of understand how you feel. I also had trouble during my course - I was bullied by the girls I lived with - and barely passed my degree x

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  9. I have a degree and uni for me, was just a waste of time. I guess 'my bad' for doing such a specialised field and that job is SO hard to come by. But hey-ho! At least I can help my kids with their science assessments! lol

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  10. I definitely think it should stop being promoted that university is the only choice or the superior choice. There were parts I liked but overall I didn’t enjoy it as much as my friends and I wonder if I should have done something else instead. I don’t necessarily regret it but it wasn’t “the best years of my life” like many say!

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  11. I'm so sorry your uni experience wasn't great. I'm in my final year of uni at the moment and I would describe it as hell. I didn't start from first year, as I done two years at college and went into third year of uni so can totally understand how everyone already has their friends.

    I think school etc should stop pressuring people into going to uni. It's not for everyone. There are other pathways into work. The only thing that is getting me through it is thinking "I didn't get this far to only get this far" and it would be silly to leave when I only have a month or so left. Time will tell on whether I end up in a job that is related. x

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