The pros and cons of online dating AD

In 2018 online dating is bigger than ever before, allowing people to meet who wouldn't have otherwise met. Allowing you to meet people all over the country who share the same interests as you, when you live in a small town it is hard to meet those people who you really click with. Plus the chances of you meeting someone you already know or who one of your friends has already been on a date with is high. With online dating, for the most part, it eliminates this and allows you to meet someone you really click with. I mean it's not every day you meet someone who ticks most of your boxes.



Online dating is great for those who may not have enough confidence to start speaking to someone online, I know that was a big thing for me personally, with anxiety it is a lot easier to speak to people online first and then meet in person, as it feels like you have those key points to talk about. When I asked on Twitter a little while back how people met their other halves, it ranged from work, at the gym all the way back to old-school social media such as MySpace and Bebo all the way forward to a variety of dating websites and people are happy to share their stories. It's no longer something you need to hide from your friends and family because most people try online dating at least once.  

Of course, with every pro, there is always a con. Online dating does come with its cons, I mean in most cases you are meeting a stranger. Years of watching Catfish has put me on edge, that you are going to meet someone completely different to the person you speak to online. Obviously, Catfish is one end of the spectrum as it often turns out to be people they know in real life and is definitely dramatized, but the point is it can sometimes be someone completely different to the profile, looks wise or age-wise. We've all been there, right? I can often make it past the looks barrier if they're still the person they said they were, as who doesn't big themselves up online, but when there is more to it and they've used another person's pics or are a completely different age, it changes the ball game.




When these situations happen it is awkward as to know what to do next right? I was recently informed of a dating app called Meetchu which rules out that issue altogether and allows you to have video calls and has a function that you can record videos of you speaking verify your identity and for them to do the same, giving you that extra bit of security when going to meet someone and I know that is a huge thing for me. Meetchu has kindly offered my readers 1-month free premium which you can access here. As Catfish say if they don't want to video call in this day and age, there is more than likely something they are hiding.



Overall, online dating offers a lot more pros than it does cons, allowing to learn about a person before meeting them encourages to learn more about them beforehand and eliminates some of the awkwardness as you feel like to an extent you already know the person and it allows you to be more fussy with who you chose to meet up with, as I mean finding a potential partner is difficult and can take time for sure. Although the awkwardness element isn't completely eased it allows a little bit pressure to be taken off. Giving you more time to enjoy the date and less time worrying about the awkward silences (that feel like they're going on for an eternity although it's actually only a minute or two) My most important piece of dating advice is to have fun, you can try so many new experiences and go to places you didn't even know existed until the date and you learn a lot about yourself whilst dating which I found helped me for future dates. 

For more of my online dating chronicles, you can read my finding love online post. 


*This was a paid collaboration, all thoughts are my own and I do truly think online dating rocks!



11 comments

  1. I have been doing internet dating for a while now and met some really interesting people, I need to check out that dating app.

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  2. I never tried online dating but so many of my family members have met their perfect match on it, and are all in happy relationships!

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  3. Interesting read. Online dating is a tricky one, I think it just depends on the person x

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  4. I've nevere tried online dating but I love the ability to be able to video messages as this would really help double check a person's authenticity.

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  5. Great post! I have been in a long term relationship for the last 16 years! Online dating never existed when I was last single!! It would be a whole new world for me if I were to return to the world of singledom once more - but I love your sentiment to just chill and have fun :)

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  6. I am a big fan of online dating - I'd never meet any new guys without the likes of Tinder and POF, haha.

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  7. I met my ex online. My friends met on POF and got engaged after two weeks. I've met the best friends online.

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  8. I have no experience with online dating but I've heard both good and bad experiences from friends and family. I think it allows people to connect although there are cons, it doesn't mean it's bad.

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  9. I have been dating online for about a year now and (fingers crossed) have just found a partner. Kaz

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  10. I tried online dating a few years ago with no success. Met my partner randomly (as we lived at opposite ends of the country) at an event we were both attending, it was really lovely to meet and click with someone so quickly. Without the internet though the relationship would never have developed as we weren't able to see each other regularly till I moved closer to him.

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  11. Great post! I would have to agree that online dating offers more opportunities to talk to different people you wouldn’t otherwise talk to. For me personally, I don’t have that confidence to go up to guys and be like “hey you’re cute want to chat?” So the apps give me the chance to talk to people and see how I feel (unfortunately more often than not the conversation runs dry.) I think that in this day and age it’s a lot more difficult to find someone who’s single and also clicks with your personality. Everyone I seem to get chatting to is waving the “don’t want a relationship but I want to mess you about” card, so it’s exhaustively boring to say the least – which makes me think maybe I should give it another go, but because I’ve had some creepy experiences with online dating apps I’ve been put off using them. I have known people who’ve found their partners through online dating so I can see how others can enjoy them.
    Jess xx

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