31 August 2016

Why CBT isn't for me! | Lets Talk

Sat in front of yet another psychiatrist being asked the same questions over and over everytime I saw somebody new, asking me why I was sat there, what has happened me, and what I want to talk about. It took three psychiatrists for me to say enough and decide it wasn't helping me. There's only so many times you can talk about your struggles and problems without dying a little inside. I honestly hate sitting down and talking about me, I couldn't think of anything worse if I am honest. Sitting one to one with somebody and talking to them whilst they write notes on me, kills me a little inside. I hate feeling like I am an exhibit which people need to write notes on and study. I think I decided I didn't like therapy after opening up to a therapist when I was younger and having them telling me to pretend it never happened and that was the only way I would ever get better. That made me unable to let go and trust another therapist for a long time.

I decided I would give it another go a couple of years ago because I wanted to be better and the medication wasn't helping me. I would sit and talk about some of my problems but I always felt myself holding back and unable to open up about what was really wrong. Trust to me is such a big deal and I find it so hard to open up to somebody, I wanted to open up to my therapist I did but I was scared of the outcome. Would she leave me feeling worse than I already did? Would she pass me on to somebody else to deal with me, what would happen to me? I eventually opened up and my fears came true. I was referred back to my doctor as I needed to be seen by a specialist for different therapy; I was told that it would be very unlikely if CBT would actually help me. I was glad they were finally helping me by pointing me in the direction of something that would actually help me but again I was still lost about opening up again without a lead.

I am currently undergoing a different therapy called EDMR, it is harder than anything I've ever had to deal with before but I finally have hope that I may get better if I keep working towards my goal. I will keep battling with my demons and hope after this type of therapy I will have a happier outcome to feed back to you all. I would love to know how many of you have had successful CBT!


  1. I'm sorry things have been so tough for you! CBT is brilliant but depends on finding someone who you "click" with and you do have to be in the right place mentally as well. EMDR is really good too, I've worked with a couple of therapists who've used it :) I hope you find it helpful.

    Jess xo | The Indigo Hours

  2. I'm sorry to hear things have been so tough for you. It's a very individual thing CBT isn't it. I think you have to be in the right 'place' and find a practitioner you relate to and feel comfortable with.

  3. I'm sorry to hear that CBT didn't help you *hugs*. It also didn't work for me & reading your post has actually been really helpful, since so many people seem to find CBT works for them and it made me feel like I was never going to get better. I'm seeing a new therapist now, he's calling it 'psychological therapy' but I can already tell he's trying to use some CBT techniques, after I've told them that I didn't find it helpful :/ It's hard trying to keep optimistic about therapy after having two therapists that haven't helped me. I've never heard of EDMR therapy before, let us how it goes x

    Sarah | Raiin Monkey

  4. I know a few people who are undergoing CBT and some of them it's really helped, in was a bit confused with what EDMR but realised you meant EMDR, it's suppose to be a quiet new and effective treatment, hope it is going well :)

  5. CBT was not helpful for me either. It was really hard because the therapist would always make me feel like it was my fault that it wasn't working, like I just wasn't trying hard enough somehow - even though I always did everything they told me. I would tell them that it wasn't working and that I needed a different approach but they would just explain CBT to me again like I was just too stupid to understand it :/ They are supposed to listen and help, but I felt like my therapists were know-it-alls who had learned about CBT at university and had no real life idea of what people go through.
    Good luck with EMDR, hopefully it will help you. I have not tried that, I have tried meds (which were catastrophic), and talk therapy (which was either making me feel worse, or nothing at all). Earlier this year I read Dr Claire Weeks' book "Complete Self Help For Your Nerves", and this book helped me more than anyone or anything so far! I highly recommend it for everyone, she truly seemed to understand mental and physical issues.
    -Daisy x

  6. I'm currently going through CBT and it's helped somewhat. My therapist was able to give me a formal diagnosis - mild agoraphobia and severe social phobia. So we can now look at more specific treatment for those types of anxiety.