29 June 2016

Numbers don't define me | Lets Talk

In my life at the moment especially with Summer arriving I am hearing a lot about weight, dress sizes and other things which relate to appearance. Being someone who has for the last five years struggled with the problems which weight offers, I will be the first to say if you are happy with your size, do not let anybody else tell you any differently. When shopping for clothes I've always noticed the crazy changes from sizes from shop to shop and to be honest why are we defined by a totally random number? In my opinion I've been as small as a 10 in one shop and a 16 in another. At least mens sizes are measured in inches, which makes a bit more sense compared to women's. I am quite honestly bored of being that number, my size is my size and I am happy with that. Whether you're a size 6 or a 26 there is no reason you shouldn't LOVE your body and if you are happy with who you are; then keep being happy, I am sure you look amazing! I hate that trying on a larger size in the clothes shop when something doesn't fit can often seem embarrassing but why should it? At the end of the day something as trivial as a number shouldn't let you feel down or sad about yourself.

It makes me mad and even sad that something as trivial as a clothing size or a number on a scale has such a big impact on our lives, you are you and you are not that number. Seeing the scales showing my biggest weight in my entire life did panic me and I felt disgusting for a while but to be honest why? Why does something like that ruin everything I have worked so hard on, trying to get my mental health back in order I don't see why I should even care. I also feel it is important to say when I was my lowest weight back in 2009 that was also seen as a problem so I can't really win. YOU are not your size and you look beautiful whatever size you are and however you feel comfortable you should accept yourself for that. I hate the idea of the media telling us how we should look, feel and act. We are humans at the end of the day and most humans gain and loose weight it is just natural. Different circumstances in your life lead to different weights, sizes and attitudes.

Being somebody has been a size 6, 8, 10, 12, 14 and now a 16 I can honestly say if you don't love yourself on the inside no matter how small you are you won't love yourself on the outside. On the other side of things if you ENJOY losing weight and that makes you happy that is what you should do, but if you don't want to and you don't care about it, don't let anybody ever tell you what to do, you be you and that's great. What this post has been about is me telling you, be happy with who you are and don't let something like a number inside of a dress define your mood, you are perfect the way you are.


  1. I LOVED this post! I'm currently at the biggest I've ever been, and it seems as though everytime I pep myself up I get bogged down by adverts/going up crazy sizes in stores/not fitting my current clothes. My goal this summer is to learn to love myself more

    Steph - www.nourishmeblog.co.uk

  2. Ahmen!

    I have taken on a kind of body positive stance after reading the militant baker blog and I am determined to spread the message that your weight does bot define you. You are no much of a better or happier person for being thinner or fatter.

    Charlotte | www.discoveringcharlotte.co.uk

  3. Too true! Numbers on a scale or a clothing label don't say how smart, beautiful, talented or kind you are. If you want to make changes to be fitter or healthier that's great but the pressure to lose weight or drop a dress size isn't positive or always healthy.

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  4. I love this post! After having 2 children, I've become a bit obsessed with my size and I'm starting to wonder if I will ever be happy. Like you said, sizes vary so much in different shops and mens sizes make so much more sense!
    I think it's best to focus on getting healthy, fit and fabulous without worrying about the number that might be!

    Emmie xo

  5. This is such a great post. I'm glad that you are focusing on loving yourself and this spreads such a positive message.
    I blog about body positivity and mental health etc over at sirvikalot.wordpress.com <3
    Vicky x