What is to blame for our misconception of love?

When growing up girls are taught to believe they will find that one guy who will sweep her off her feet and they will ride away together into the sunset on a white horse, the price being tall, and wearing a suit, with no imperfections basically. Whether it's in films such as Disney with all of the princesses, or even more 'real' films such as 10 things I hate about you, p.s. I love you or Valentines Day, even though they have different story lines they all feature the same thing, girl and boy fall in love, have such a romantic time, have a huge fight which determines the fate of the couple and then they end up all happy in each others arms with a huge romantic gesture!

 It's the same with books we are shown these stories about people who fall in love and end up at the end happily ever after. Which when all you read and watch it becomes what you believe in, no-one shares the darker side of relationships, the break ups, the divorces, the unhappiness- but I guess that's the way they sell the produce right? But the parts where it just shows guys to be perfect or if he makes a mistake to make it up with flowers, jewellery or other gifts which has put men in a position which they feel they need to do those things. 

I love the film 500 days of summer because it shows both sides, it shows the romantic love stuff but it shows the end product which is them not ending up in the end together and the woman gets married to someone else! A difference with this film is the boy being heartbroken after the girl who was messing him around, which is not something which is ever portrayed in films either. Especially since we usually know the plot which is going to happen but we still watch them anyway. 

Another thing which I've found to be missing from film and books is relationships about homosexual people, it's great to see a love story between a woman and a man, but it would be nice to show the 21st century side of things which shows that people are gay and it's a real thing and they can have their happy ending too, it would be a new awesome thing to see and for people to watch to get that same enjoyment they get out of a heterosexual love story but with a difference.   

I hate the way that love is made up to be perfect ALL of the time, else it's not true love or whatever but that's so not true, you can love someone with all of your heart, doesn't mean you won't fight or argue or have bad stuff happen because this is real life and nothing is perfect here. I'm not saying there is anything wrong with a bit of fantasy which books and films give us an escape to, when real life does get too much but sometimes it would be great to see a film which doesn't end with happily ever after, because life is no fairytale.

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  1. Hi Olivia, I've nominated you for the Versatile Blogger Award. I hope you haven't done this one yet. :) http://beckythewallflower.blogspot.de/2015/03/the-versatile-blogger-award.html
    Becky x

  2. Books and movies always show how the people get together - you rarely read a book or see a movie that's about their actual relationship once they are together! But I think that's important to see as well. A relationship is not always happily ever after!


  3. Totally agree with this and sometimes think it can be a little damaging to children/teenagers who can gain contructs of what they SHOULD have or how things should be going. It makes me angry really and upset, I know it's not supposed to be the real world but there isn't too much variationxx

  4. I completely agree with this. Over the last couple of years, I've lost interest in the stereotypical romantic comedies, instead turning towards indie movies that showcase various parts of life in one movie. I've become quite cynical, I guess, as I no longer believe in true love like I did when I was a child. It might work for some, but in most cases, it's more of an infatuation.

    Great post! It's nice to see someone voicing the unspoken. :)
    Girl in a Whimsical Land

  5. I love this post. I honestly think that what we see in books and films gives us massive preconceptions about 'finding true love'. I don't think it's a bad thing hoping for the happy ever after situation but you've got to think about the reality too. I've even been in relationships previously and compared it to something I've seen in the cinema! It's bizarre! Danielle xx


  6. This is such an excellent post! I think love is completely different for everyone and there are far too many 'Hollywood' versions of what it should or shouldn't be. I have a completely unconventional relationship with my fiancé and wouldn't want it any other way; despite what movies might tell me!

  7. I've never heard of 500 days of Summer but I think it sounds really interesting - going to look it up! I agree, there are too many films/books showing 'perfect'love when that's not the case!

  8. This is a fantastic post! Films, TV shows and movies do give young girls such an unrealistic view and expectations of love and there is so much pressure from society to tick all the right boxes when it comes to love and relationships.