Wednesday, 3 August 2016

The Truth About FOMO | Lets Talk.

I've had this post in my head for such a long time, it has just taken me a while to get my thoughts together to talk about this post on my blog. For me it is something that is real and effects my everyday life and I hope one day I can come to terms with it and not let it effect me the way it does at the moment, but for now I am going to do what I do best, and write a blog post about it.



So what is FOMO I hear you ask? 
Fomo is the 'fear of missing out' and at first I thought I was the only one who suffered with this, I would spend hours upon hours looking on social media and seeing people together and wondering why I hadn't been invited, I mean we are friends so why wasn't I asked? I felt pathetic and I often got really upset that they no longer liked me. It was when I started to spend more time inside because of my illness I realised it was getting worse, I would see everyone hanging out and taking pictures and would hate myself for not being able to be there. It got worse when I was finally able to hang out but I had missed out on SO much I ended up feeling 10 times worse as I wasn't included in the jokes and I had no idea about what everyone was talking about.

Is it just triggered by social media? 
Last year I realised it isn't just social media which triggers FOMO for me, I lived with 4 people and whenever they were downstairs having a laugh and a drink and I was upstairs I'd wonder what they were doing and why I wasn't invited downstairs. I'd often force myself out of bed and go downstairs to hang out with them so I didn't miss out anything. FOMO seems like such a casual thing, I mean how can somebody get so upset and lonely about not being invited to something right? But honestly it consumes your mind and makes you wonder why. With somebody who suffers a lot with anxiety and I am quite a paranoid person this tips me over the edge, I feel lonely when people are having a laugh and an inside joke. Recently I've noticed it is even worse than ever before, I feel like when I go on holiday instead of enjoying my holiday I am paranoid that everybody is meeting up without me and having a great time and they will forget about me.

How am I going to deal with my FOMO?  
Right now I am lucky because my friends actually suffer with FOMO a lot too, and are also quite confused when they aren't asked to hang out which helps knowing I am not alone with this. But it still consumes my life and makes me feel uncomfortable. I hope one day I am able to manage this in a more healthy way, but for now I am just going to have to keep going on how I am and hope for the best.

Do you suffer with FOMO?
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11 comments

  1. I dont think I have ever suffered from FOMO, though I can see why people do have the fear.

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  2. I can see why people so have FOMO. Modern technology doesn't help, having push notifications every 5 minutes!

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  3. I get this sometimes too as a social anxiety sufferer. I agree with Mellissa in that Social Media and modern technology has a lot to do with this. I mean, you go a day without it and it's like so much has happened - it's crazy. I hope you find a way to deal with your FOMO soon sweetie xx

    www.kirstytalks.co.uk

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  4. I get this sometimes. It got worse when I moved away from all my friends and to a new city entirely. I knew no one so I had to create my own fun. After a while, I got over my FOMO with my old friends and started creating my own opportunities and fun. Don't get me wrong, I do get FOMO sometimes, but I know that they don't really mean anything by it when I'm excluded from certain things. Social media is the worst for it though. I have thought about deactivating Facebook more than once because of it.

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  5. I can see why people get it sometimes, I don't get it too often but very occasionally I will see someone doing something and wish it was me - being a mum, some of my old friends don't really hang around with me anymore so they're always off doing fun and exciting things without me

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  6. I totally get FOMO - especially living in London, with friends who go out and about all the time! My main problem is it ends up with me burning myself out trying to escape it - I'll find myself with no free evenings for ages and it just gets too much!

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  7. I feel like I am definitely relating to this lately :(

    Nicola // pink-confetti.co.uk

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  8. I totally get what you mean. I don't often feel this way, but I do in terms of blogging, meeting bloggers, going to events etc. It genuinely makes me upset, but not because I wasn't invited. Because no one knows who I am! :(

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  9. I think I've suffered from FOMO before - sometines in a general sense of sitting at home and feeling like I was missing out and at other times being wide awake at 3am nearly having a panic attack because I couldn't stop thinking about not being able to do things I wanted to in life like travelling and experiencing new things. I think FOMO has definitely gotten a lot worse due to social media and it seems nearly everyone suffers from it these days... x

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  10. I don't think I've ever suffered with FOMO... Purely because I've either been out loads in the past or I'm past caring about doing things like that anymore. Either way I do sometimes find myself thinking, "It'd be nice to go out and have a fun time with everyone... BUT that would involve being social and spending loads of money when I can just stay at home and snuggle up on the sofa and spend zero money." :P

    https://theremightbecoffee.wordpress.com/

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  11. I suffer a lot with FOMO - like you say, social media doesn't help, seeing your friends do something that you haven't been invited on. But I just think it's them who's missing out on my great company x

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