Thursday, 19 March 2015

Why I'm Against 'A fine line, what is plus sized?'



Some of you may find this strange due to my boyfriend writing the original post which has got everyone annoyed this morning- for those of you who don't know what I am talking this is the post. Although I adore my boyfriend, I think he has been incredibly stupid in writing this post and asking for what he has been given. I am extremely confused by this post due to also being counted as 'plus sized' and when he met me I was actually very overweight. I think that at the end of the day happiness, is what is important e.g.what was mentioned in my skinny shaming argument. I would like to point out to those who think I am anything to do with it, you are VERY wrong. Not only do I think Lukes post is disrespectful and sexist, it also to me comes across, that everyone who is plus sized is also being called obese.

 I may not be the exact healthy weight for my height, but I have been both ends of the spectrum, and I actually prefer myself with more weight than not. I constantly looked ill when I was 'skinny' but then again it depends on who you are, what you are doing etc. If you are "overweight" and love your body then go you! If you are skinny and love your body also go you! I am against any kind of shaming because at the end of the day just because you are a bigger/smaller clothing size doesn't mean you are unhealthy in all accounts. Not everyone who is overweight is going to get ill from it also the same with skinny people. But obviously there are extremes which need to be considered for example if it is seriously damaging your body to the point where you may actually die it should be considered to take action. Some of you may of seen She Might Be Loved post opposing Lukes view if you haven't feel free to click here to read. I actually agree with her and in fact she is one of my role models because she is BEAUTIFUL, and more importantly happy and I am so proud of how far as a blogger she has come and that she has been signed as a face of a brand is fabulous!

I know some people are extremely overweight and this can be a problem, but if it isn't affecting you and you are happy with yourself, then stay who you are. Besides what even is a healthy weight, just because the NHS says what is healthy and what is not, I don't think it is what we should exactly live by. I believe that if you are happy with yourself then that is fabulous I don't think weight comes into what makes you beautiful, a personality can make you beautiful, you can still be 'overweight' and incredibly beautiful.
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18 comments

  1. I'm plus size and although I wish I was a little light I am personally ok with it. I have health issues but these are not down to weight they are down to bad genes something I have no control over and despite what people think, losing weight will not make this illnesses go away. They will still be with me every day.

    I honestly think you weight be in too much, too little or just rightful your height is not a problem. The only time it does if it has a negative effect on your health be it physical or mental health.

    I'd like to weigh less but at this time in my life it doesn't have that much s negative effect on me to feel the need I should diet. Some day I may feel different about this and may do something about it. When and if this happens will be my choice and not done because someone else has a negative view of me and feel I should look like their ideal.

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  2. Great post - I totally agree that just because someone might be 'over/under-weight' according to the NHS or whoever, doesn't mean you're at the wrong weight for you. Everyone knows if they're living a healthy lifestyle and doing what's good for their mind and body, and if you are + feel happy and healthy, then weight shouldn't even matter. X

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  3. I have lost 7st myself and I definitely know that health and weight don't go hand in hand. It is so wrong for anyone to assume just because someone is "over weight" that they are unhealthy.

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  4. I think I kind of get the point that your boyfriend was trying to make, but he worded it very badly and made it so easy for people too take offensive. I don't think that if you're overweight or underweight it means that you're unhealthy or unfit, or even if you are but you are happy with how you look and you want to stay that way you should be able to without getting shamed for it (with the exception of food disorders of course, but that's a whole other topic!)

    The Velvet Black // UK Style & Beauty Blog

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  5. I do agree with you entirely. But also, on your boyfriends behalf, it's a very touchy subject and very easy to say the wrong thing. When I was at school, the NHS BMI calculator stated I was obese, and that was the only time I was really happy with my weight, I didn't really feel obese, I was confident.

    It is wrong to assume that 'overweight' = 'unhealthy' too.

    I just wanted to say also, that I love that you and your boyfriend have such differing views, but are each able to express them fairly. You must have a strong, and exciting relationship. :)
    Sarah xx



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  6. I completely agree. I say whatever you're happy with is right with you.
    Great post hun
    Charlotte x

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  7. He was brave writing that article! If he'd been my boyfriend, I would have ripped his testicles off and fed them to him down his throat for that one!

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  8. I love this post! I have been both obese and also anorexic, and I can tell you now that I was healthier when I was obese. Plus, not everyone is supposed to be thin.. I am now recovered and my body wasn't healthy at the lower end of healthy. We are all genetically set to be a certain weight, some bigger, some smaller, so instead of trying to be a certain size, we should listen to our bodies instead of fighting them xxx

    Sam | Samantha Betteridge

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  9. I love this post! I struggled with my weight in school and went on a ridiculous diet and made myself ill - I'm still making up for it with deficiencies I will be tackling all of my life now. And now I am 10st, something I struggled with, but now I love. I don't look poorly, I eat what I want and I'm happy with my size. Who cares what size my jeans are if I'm a nice person? :) x

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  10. That an amazing achievement, but diets are never worth making yourself poorly over. I am glad you're doing okay now, and I agree it's more about being a nice person :-) x

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  11. I know how you feel I have been in the same boat with both. I agree it should be about being who you are and loving yourself :-) x

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  12. Yeah I think he meant well, It is a touchy subject and overweight doesn't always mean unhealthy because you can be healthier and be overweight too :-)

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  13. Yeah he was a bit silly and didn't mean to cause offence. But I agree, it's about being happy in your body and about with who you ARE. xx

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  14. Great comment completely agree, it's not about being what the NHS says it's about what is right for you. I was the ideal weight and I was beyond skinny and I hated it. xx

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  15. I don't at all agree with fat shaming, but I do have to agree with your bf's post a little. Plus size, fair enough. But when people are extremely overweight and 'plus size', I worry about the impact this will have on young people. I wouldn't want young people to grow up aspiring to be plus size or to think they don't need to worry about their health because they can just be plus size, because at the end of the day there are health implications to think about. But then on the other hand, people shouldn't be defined by their size. I can see what your boyfriend meant by his post, but perhaps he just didn't put it in the most diplomatic and sensitive way. Overweight doesn't always mean unhealthy, but when it comes to people when they are BMIs are way way above what is healthy, I don;t think they should be seen as role models.

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  16. And also feel I should add - size and weight certainly doesn't define who is and can be beautiful. It's the health that worries me, that's all.

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  17. Love this, I love the fact that you've contradicted what Luke has said. A lot of people would just expect you to agree and go along with it. I've always been 'tiny' (and probably quite underweight at stages) and now I'm 'bigger' (to me I'm larger, when in fact I'm not, I'm more of a healthy size then I ever have been!) and although it's a strange thing I'm actually starting to accept it. I now have to buy a dress size bigger, and I'm happy in my body now although I would still like to tone up but I'm working on that. Love this post my lovely xxxx

    x x | daisydaisyxxo

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